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I Thought the Fighting was Normal

I have no memory of my parents ever being affectionate or kind to each other and I remember if I went to a friend's house and saw their parents getting along, I thought it was weird. When they would communicate with each other, I only remember the constant fighting. I wasn't really expecting the news of their separation because I thought that the way they interacted with each other was normal and I thought that's obviously how all marriages would be.

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I Have a Deep Fear of Being Abandoned

No one seemed to feel the need to explain what happened to me I feel like since the divorce it’s been important for me to plan everything, know everything, so I can control my world. I’m not good with surprises or changing my plans. That makes me very inflexible. And I have a deep fear of being abandoned.

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Joey Pontarelli Joey Pontarelli

Diez Consejos Para Ayudar a Alguien Cuyos Padres Se Están Separando o Divorciando

Recientemente una amiga me envió un mensaje de texto con unas noticias tristes: su tía y tío se están divorciando. Naturalmente, ella esta preocupada por los cinco niños — sus primos. Ella me preguntó: Que puedo hacer para ayudarlos? Esta fue mi respuesta, siendo un niño de divorciados que ha escuchado a personas como yo y leído los estudios sobre el tema durante años.

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You Are Not Your Broken Family

I remember feeling a heavy burden on my heart and on my shoulders. I felt abandoned and alone. I knew I was going to be the sole comforter and emotional support for my younger siblings as our parents went through with the divorce. Growing up I had already created a habit of taking on family’s problems that weren't mine to bear.

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Miranda Rodriguez Miranda Rodriguez

Querido Divorcio

Dear divorce,

Thanks to you, I learned nothing on earth lasts as long as it should.

Dear divorce,

You spread the heinous lie that ‘happiness’ is on the other side of leaving, that it’s the only answer

You convinced them that ‘children are resilient;’ after all, we ‘want you to be happy.’

Dear divorce,

You taught me to trust no one, not even those who say ‘I love you’, not even myself.

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