I Thought the Fighting was Normal
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This story was written by Anonymous at 21 years old. Her parents divorced when she was 15. She gave permission for her story to be shared.
HER STORY
I remember when I was 13, I got home from school camp and my mum was cleaning out the study. When I asked her what she was doing, she told me that she and Dad would no longer be sharing a room. They lived like that in separate rooms until one night when I was 15. One week before my exams, they told us they were separating. I have no memory of my parents ever being affectionate or kind to each other and I remember that if I went to a friend’s house and saw their parents getting along, I thought it was weird. When they would communicate with each other, I only remember the constant fighting. I wasn't really expecting the news of their separation because I thought that the way they interacted with each other was normal and I thought that's obviously how all marriages would be.
HOW THE DIVORCE MADE HER FEEL
I struggled with a lot of feelings of worthlessness. My best friend said that if you don't have a mum and dad who love each other, you'll never be able to succeed at anything. I think this mindset puts a huge limitation on God's mercy and is far from the truth. It still cut me though.
HOW THE DIVORCE IMPACTED HER
I became very sick after my parents’ separation and the doctors couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. My grades also dropped. I was an A student in all the advanced classes. After my parents separated, I was moved down into the general classes and was struggling to keep up.
ADVICE FOR SOMEONE WHOSE PARENTS JUST SEPARATED OR DIVORCED
Know your worth. Don't settle for less, Jesus paid dearly for you. You can also unite your sufferings to the Passion of Christ. He, better than anyone, understands what you are experiencing. He has been through rejection, misunderstanding, slander, etc.
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