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It's Not Your Fault and You Are Not Alone
If you are angry, depressed, lonely, whatever, just know that a lot of that stems from the divorce. But you also can decide how you want to respond, and what kind of person you want to be.
#033: Does Divorce Damage Children? 67 Studies Answer
Is divorce damaging for the children? There’s a lot of misinformation around that question.
In this episode, we dispel the myths by breaking down a study. That study summarizes the results of 67 studies about children of divorce. Don’t worry, we make it simple.
#032: How to Navigate the Holidays: Advice from 11 Children of Divorce
The holidays are especially challenging for anyone with separated or divorced parents. So many of us dread the holidays. We often feel alone and uncertain of how to deal with it all.
To offer practical guidance, some of our audience submitted voice memos to answer this question: What’s one tip you’d give to teens or young adults from divorced or separated families on navigating the holidays?
I've Realized This is My Life Now
It has been rough. There aren't many people in my family who are divorced, so it has been rough telling people and realizing that I have divorced parents. I have told 3 of my friends, so it has also been hard telling people I can trust.
It has also made me question love and marriage as a whole. Overall, I would just say it has been rough on me mentally.
#031: My Parents’ Divorce Made Me Crave Belonging | Carlie Spaulding
Seeing her parents divorce, Carlie wrestled with this question: If it didn’t work out for my parents, how can I make someone stay with me?
That led her to crave the approval of others and became whoever she needed to be to make them stay. But deep down, she desired more. She wanted to belong in an authentic way.
Love and Relationships Series
The biggest negative effects from our parents’ divorce are experienced in our romantic relationships. Why? Because we lack a roadmap for love. Thankfully, we’re bringing you a roadmap to find and build authentic love in this podcast series.
#030: How to Heal Your Broken Marriage | Greg & Julie Alexander
How do you heal a broken marriage? Greg and Julie Alexander tackle that topic in today’s episode.
They’ve helped over 5,000 seriously struggling couples in the past 20 years. Their success rate? 98%.
A New Adventure
It is extremely exciting and wonderful, and also daunting.
As a child (and grandchild) of divorce, marriage scares me for many reasons.
The little understanding I have about marriage can very succinctly be summed up with the sentence: marriage is hard.
#029: Stories of Impossible Marriages Redeemed | Leila Miller
Struggling spouses often feel like they have two options: Stay married and be miserable or get divorced and be happy. Thankfully, there’s a third option: Healing your marriage. Leila Miller shares hopeful stories of healed marriages.
#028: Tips for Building a Great Marriage from an Amazing Couple - Part 2 | Joe & Maria Keller
Young people from broken homes lack a roadmap for love. We’ve seen a broken model of love and marriage from our parents. And so, we often feel lost when it comes to finding and building love.
To heal, one important step is spending time around good marriages.
My Parents' Divorce Made It Hard for Me to Believe in Lasting Love
My parent's divorce made it very hard for me to believe in lasting love. I felt scared of and unworthy of love. My father never made me feel beautiful and the fact that I always had to try so hard to earn his love set me up for giving too much in relationships because I felt I wasn't enough and had something to prove.
#027: Tips for Building a Great Marriage from an Amazing Couple - Part 1 | Joe & Maria Keller
If you want to build a great marriage, follow the advice of couples who’ve done it. Spend time with them and learn from their example and wisdom.
That's exactly what we do in this episode.
#026: Viral Facebook Post: What if We Spoke Well of Marriage? | Sarah Jarrard
“What if we spoke well of marriage for the next generation?”
One day, Sarah got really discouraged and even fed up. Why? Because of people saying bad things about their spouses and bashing marriage itself. So she wrote her thoughts and feelings on a Facebook post. She was surprised even 20 people shared it.
But before she knew it, it went viral. In no time, it had over 40,000 shares.
#025: Men, Women, and the Mystery of Love | Dr. Edward Sri
It’s easy to feel discouraged or lost in searching for love. Perhaps you’ve even given up on love altogether, thinking it’s not possible for you. If that’s you - or you just want to know how to build real love and avoid divorce - listen to this episode.
In Search of Protection and Security
As a young child, my dad was the apple of my eye, and I was his. But after the divorce, I began seeking masculine love and security and was very careless as to how I found it.
I Thought Something Was Wrong With Me, Not My Family
Growing up, I always thought I lived in a normal family. Though I experienced what I now know was anxiety and depression from the time I was a young girl, I always thought it was because something was wrong with me—not my family situation. Looking back, I see how far from a normal, healthy family we were.
In Defense of the Family: How We Lost It & Why We Need It
I think this is the mentality most people have today; we don’t think divorce is a good thing, but we don’t see it as a terrible thing either. After all, 50% of marriages end in divorce… how can something so normal be that terrible?
It wasn’t until I got older that I began to understand the ramifications of my parents’ divorce; the long-lasting effect it had left on me. Growing up in an uncomfortable love triangle is painful and stressful; there are serious consequences when something that is meant to last forever… doesn’t.
#024: Tips for Engagement, Wedding, and 1st Year of Marriage - Part 2
If you come from a broken home, planning a wedding and getting married throws some unique challenges at you. Joey shares what he and his wife, Brigid, wish someone told them about engagement, the wedding, and the first year of marriage.
My Parents' Divorce Made Me Feel Abandoned
It's really affected my friendships. It really caused some abandonment issues since my mom left us when I was younger. With my friends, I get really hurt if they have other friends, or if I have a fight or argument with them I get really scared for the future of the friendship.
Most of my friendships have failed and when they have, it took a big toll on me. To this day, I have very few friends and it’s hard for me to connect with people because of insecurities. I don't want temporary friendships. For me, it’s important to have true bonds with people.
The Key to Ultimate Wholeness
Your life doesn't have to follow your parent's decisions or experiences. You have the incredible opportunity to choose your own path, write your own life's story, and paint your life's own spectacular and individual picture.