Should I Just Get Over It?
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This story was written by Anonymous at 18 years old. Her parents separated at 15. She gave permission for her story to be shared.
HER STORY
I guess family life as I knew it kinda fell apart. My dad found other interests and entertainment outside of the family (late nights out, other women, fancy dinners, etc.) and kept it a secret until it wasn't anymore. I don't think I knew what to make of it 100%.
HOW THE DIVORCE MADE HER FEEL
I really didn't know what to make of it...I still kinda don't some days. I think it’s boggled my mind. I haven't been bitter or angry (like holding a grudge, seeking vengeance, wishing ill), at least at my dad. But I’m more frustrated with myself. Discouraged that I don't "fit the norm" of other traditional, large, Catholic conservative families. I had always thought I was secure in that, but it was merely a facade my dad wore.
HOW THE DIVORCE IMPACTED HER
My dad's actions have had positive and negative impacts on me. I have become a much more compassionate and less judgemental person. I have learned lessons that I don't think I could have without going through this. However, I have some struggles that seem directly related to this: a bad relationship with food/emotional eating, self-anger, and body image obsession. Sometimes I tell myself, "Who doesn't go through these things, especially at 18?! I should just get over it all already." It is a lonely place to be sometimes.
ADVICE FOR SOMEONE WHOSE PARENTS JUST SEPARATED OR DIVORCED
It is understandable to be confused. You might feel relief, then guilt, then nostolgia for what was, even if that wasn't healthy. I know I have. It may seem impossible, but through pursuing a relationship with God, there is hope for you to get better — better than before, even. Don't stop dreaming for yourself and work to achieve it. You are worth it.
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