I Realized I Had No One to Comfort Me
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This story was written by an anonymous Patrice Brown at 30 years old. Her parents separated when she was 11. She gave permission for her story to be shared.
HER STORY
The ultimate reason my parents split was infidelity. Being so young, I can’t remember exactly how they were in a relationship but I can remember very specific unhealthy interactions between them. I was standing there when my Dad pleaded with my mom and she yelled and screamed for him to go away. I remember a day after the divorce that changed everything for me. My dad was gone and my mom was out. I heard my two younger siblings crying while I was on the computer writing short stories. So I went to comfort them. In that moment everything became real. I realized I had no one there to comfort me. I spent the majority of my life and childhood making sure everyone else was okay and being a sounding board for my mom.
HOW THE DIVORCE MADE HER FEEL
It made me feel insecure and vulnerable. I proceeded to look for love in all the wrong places.
HOW THE DIVORCE IMPACTED HER
I haven’t ever had a lasting relationship. I forgive people but only so much until I’m calling it quits. I was running from a fear of being with someone for 25 years and then discovering they were the wrong person. So out of that fear, I ended it with the wrong people before it went too far. I also chose the wrong people, people I wanted to fix instead of love.
ADVICE FOR SOMEONE WHOSE PARENTS JUST SEPARATED OR DIVORCED
Stay connected to your hobbies. Do self-care. Don’t go out looking for the love that’s missing at home. Take your time with yourself and your healing. Seek God.
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