Divorce Caused Emotional Barriers
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This story was written by an anonymous woman at 52 years old. Her parents divorced when she was 15. She gave permission for her story to be shared.
HER STORY
My parents were very young when they got married. As a matter of fact, the reason they married, from what I was told, was because my mother got pregnant with me. It was brought to my attention that my father really liked someone else at the time, but decided not to pursue the relationship due to my mother being pregnant. My parents then married and stayed married for 16 years. During those 16 years, there were many trials and tribulations. From what I was told by a family member, they appeared to have started out with a pretty good marriage but after 3 years things started to change. They basically started many arguments and fights, and it grew more and more over the years until finally one day my father couldn't take it anymore, and finally decided to leave my mother.
HOW THE DIVORCE MADE Her FEEL
At the time, I was somewhat relieved because I got tired of them arguing.
HOW THE DIVORCE IMPACTED HER
Well, I think it has caused some emotional barriers. I then got pregnant at the age of 19 and had my first child at age 20, and married, but due to being so young and a college dropout after I got pregnant we decided to get married shortly after my first child was born. In that union came two more children, and the stress of being a new mother, and young wife started to cave in on me. It was when I discovered I was pregnant with my third child and the stress of being a mother that this was not for me. I began to get very depressed and after the third child was born I went into severe postpartum depression and had to be hospitalized for this. I felt so guilty for going into this state. I felt as if I failed at being a mother. I began to feel that I should have had better control of my emotions, and that if other women who had far more kids that they were raising could handle them why couldn't I? But I suddenly felt a sense that this was not for me, and later my ex-husband at the time decided to separate from me. However, the two oldest daughters he took from me, but I ended up raising the baby, but still got to see my other children.
ADVICE FOR SOMEONE WHOSE PARENTS JUST SEPARATED OR DIVORCED
I would say it is wise to seek counseling.
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