Primal Loss: The Now-Adult Children of Divorce Speak

In her book, Leila Miller has given a voice to the often voiceless adult children of divorce. Amazon's description of the book reads:

Seventy now-adult children of divorce give their candid and often heart-wrenching answers to eight questions (arranged in eight chapters, by question), including: What were the main effects of your parents' divorce on your life? What do you say to those who claim that "children are resilient" and "children are happy when their parents are happy"? What would you like to tell your parents then and now? What do you want adults in our culture to know about divorce? What role has your faith played in your healing? Their simple and poignant responses are difficult to read and yet not without hope. Most of the contributors--women and men, young and old, single and married--have never spoken of the pain and consequences of their parents' divorce until now. They have often never been asked, and they believe that no one really wants to know. Despite vastly different circumstances and details, the similarities in their testimonies are striking; as the reader will discover, the death of a child's family impacts the human heart in universal ways.

You can learn more about Leila on her website or connect with her on Facebook.


The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: The 25 Year Landmark Study

Divorce has long lasting effects on everyone who lives through it, especially the children. Judith Wallerstein's study, reported on in the book, offers real insight as she observed the children of divorce throughout 25 years. Amazon explains:

In this compelling, thought-provoking book, Judith Wallerstein explains that, while children do learn to cope with divorce, it in fact takes its greatest toll in adulthood, when the sons and daughters of divorced parents embark on romantic relationships of their own. Wallerstein sensitively illustrates how children of divorce often feel that their relationships are doomed, seek to avoid conflict, and fear commitment. Failure in their loving relationships often seems to them preordained, even when things are going smoothly. As Wallerstein checks in on the adults she first encountered as youngsters more than twenty-five years ago, she finds that their experiences mesh with those of the millions of other children of divorce, who will find themselves on every page.

The book has a rather scholarly approach and tone, but the insights are excellent.


Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life

Dr. Henry Cloud is author, speaker, and expert psychologist. Writing with Dr. John Townsend, this book speaks about drawing boundaries in your personal and professional life. Just as a person's land or property has boundaries, so too must our lives. With real world and practical application, the authors teach you "When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life." Amazon offers:

If you’ve ever wondered: Can I set limits and still be a loving person? How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? Why do I feel guilty when I consider setting boundaries? Unpacking the 10 laws of boundaries, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend give you biblically based answers to these and other tough questions, and show you how to set healthy boundaries with your spouse, children, friends, coworkers, and even with yourself.

If you're struggling to set boundaries, specifically in your post divorce or separation family relationships, this book will help. To watch Dr. Henry answer a woman's question regarding a difficult situation with her mother and how to implement boundaries, click here.